Have you ever heard Aesop’s fable about the little boy who cried wolf? I am beginning to think that a lot of women have not. Every time I hear of another accuser coming forward against some political figure and saying they were abused, I believe less and less. As a woman, this is not hard for me to say at all. I have seen how conniving, manipulative, and mean some women can be.
As a therapist I was trained to believe first. I have seen heartbroken people whose innocence has been stolen from them. I have seen the devastation abuse has wrought on people’s lives. There are real victims out there. Ones whose lives will never be the same and who will have to deal with the ghosts that haunt their minds at the most inconvenient of times if not all the time.
This drama that we see unfolding with people like Judge Kavanaugh, to me, it is just not real. It reminds me of that little boy who kept telling the villagers that the wolves were coming. He said it so many times that eventually people just stopped believing him. When the wolves did really come, no one responded. No one bothered to listen to him once he finally told the truth.
Every time a woman comes forward with a false accusation for political and/or perhaps even monetary gain, the people she is truly hurting are the real victims of abuse. These unscrupulous, deceitful women are taking away the voices of those who have truly been abused. These unprincipled women are crying wolf so much that soon no one is going to believe the real victims who are actually telling the truth. I believe this because I know how skeptical I personally have become. I have seen plenty of women who seem to be behaving as nothing more than Potiphar’s wife (cf. Genesis 39).
In my estimation, this false accusation movement against men has done more to harm women than help them. The real victims of abuse are losing their voices because people will eventually stop believing that a wolf has really come.
“Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, but those who act faithfully are his delight”