One week before my first son was born I can remember lying in bed crying. My husband asked me what was wrong.
“Things are never going to be the same again,” I said.
“Why not?” he asked.
“Because it’s just been you and me, and now we are going to have a baby. Things are changing, and we’ll never be alone again,” I cried.
Things did change, and we have not been just the two of us. We have become a wonderful family with two great sons. God gifted us with children, and they are indeed a blessing! We determine early on that we were going to raise them to know Christ.
I’ve been reading the book of Ecclesiastes lately. Repeatedly, Solomon says that power, riches, fame, the wisdom of man, and many other things are all done in vain. They are a chasing after the wind (Ecclesiastes 1:14; 2:11). All his human pursuits did not seem to bring Solomon happiness and contentment in his life. I believe they also do not bring us true happiness or meaning. I am convinced this is why so many people who have reached heights in terms of celebrity or power or wealth end up committing suicide.
Solomon does not just talk about how in vain the things of this world are. He also talks about the importance of enjoying your lot in life. As I understand it, we are to be content with what God has given us. To that he adds that we should fear God and keep His commandments. It’s our entire duty (Ecclesiastes 12:13-14)!
So back to those two wonderful boys that I have been blessed with. I’ve seen many parents who claim to be Christians pursuing fame and fortune without realizing the true riches that exist in their children. When you have a child, God has entrusted you with something precious. He has given you an opportunity not only to have something enjoyable in your life, but to also have the opportunity to pass on the knowledge of Him in a special way to another human being.
I wish more Christian parents realized the amazing blessing and responsibility they have been given. If you have been blessed with children, take your role seriously. Be purposeful and active in that child’s life. Don’t pan your children off to others to raise them. Be the biggest influence besides God in the lives of your children. Do what God has given you to do: bring your children up in the fear and admonition of God (Ephesians 6:4)!
Having children does change you. Things are never the same again, but in a wonderful way! When God gives you a gift, you need to enjoy it. When God makes you a parent, remember that this is a blessing. Power, riches, worldly knowledge, and fame are vain pursuits. It is only what is done for God that will bring true meaning in life.